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Residents' Perspectives


Names may have been changed to protect residents' identities.


Emma's Perspective

Wellmet was hard to accept at first. It was and wasn’t my decision to come here all at the same time. It was true I hadn’t signed myself up for the program but prior to coming the choices I made in my life resulted in my needing to come here. That, in and of itself, was hard to contend with. And I fought through the first month or two; resenting the staff, the rules, the house and everything in it. Until I realized that what I really resented was myself for the poor decisions I made in the past. But once I stopped judging myself for past actions and looking at this as a punishment I began to see it as the catalyst that would move me forward in life.

Thus, slowly but surely the rules began to make sense. Milieu became something I looked forward to and I could appreciate the ten to two rule seeing as my friends from my previous treatment were often found to be sleeping until noon. Each day I came home to a household of friends feeling accomplished. Not only did I have productive days and share in that with my fellow residents but when I had an off day both staff and residents were there to listen and wish me well for the next day.

My first two months here were spent trying to manipulate my way into leaving. Now that I am able to leave I’m sad to go and even more disappointed in myself for have let those two months go to waste in terms of enjoying my time here. After all, attitude is everything. 

- "Emma"


Carnival

For the past five years, I was living in a carnival stuck on a roller coaster. My life was out of control, up & down, thrilling in some moments, but in the end all I was left with was a sick feeling in my stomach. I was afraid but didn’t know how to get off the ride. I looked to outside people and things to fill the void. The relief they brought was temporary, so the pain I was trying to escape would come back to haunt me. I needed structure and time away from my family so we all had space to heal.

At the carnival, stuck on rides I did not want to be on, I became more hopeless. As my downward spiral progressed it was decided treatment was necessary. I was angry, but now feel lucky my family refused to watch me suffer any longer. After completing inpatient, Wellmet was presented to me as a next step. I accepted the challenge and the great opportunity.

Wellmet offered me accountability, a supportive community, and rules that would guide the rebuilding process. However, I’ve had to do all the work: manage obstacles, find things that brought me joy, and establish healthy relationships. I had to make recovery my priority even when things got hard. At Wellmet, you are given a lot of freedom, so it’s up to you to determine your own success. I have been here seven months, and it hasn’t been easy, but I can honestly say I’ve laughed, made lifelong friends, found a fulfilling job, and begun reestablishing trust. Others see progress in my life, but more importantly, I do. I wouldn’t change my past; it’s given me perspective to recognize blessings in my life. I finally got off the roller coaster. On the Fourth of July, I chose to go to a carnival - and when my tickets were gone, I got off the rides, and went home to Wellmet.

- "Emily"


Cambridge
Nate’s Perspective

Looking back at my time at Wellmet, there have been far too many situations that I have encountered that without the assistance and guidance of Wellmet would have been a lot more difficult and overwhelming for me as a young adult. When I was faced with the challenges of being homeless and emotionally worn, there where so many everyday tasks that went from being simple and manageable to what seemed impossible and stressful. When I was approached by my social worker to discuss the most practical options for a living situation, we started thinking about placement in a residential program. At this point it was early February with blizzard weather conditions and I had spent 12 days living in my car, so it seemed like a step that I would have to make. Like any 19 year old in that situation adjusting to a new home, new people and new rules was very difficult. Yet by the second week the staff and residents had helped me feel more at home than any other place that I could think of at that time. As time went on and the seasons rolled by I had realized that every single daily task that had been stressful and unmanageable had become not only manageable but had become an everyday expectation. Some of the most important things that I have ever learned in terms of being responsible, being kind and respectful have come through the guidance of staff at Wellmet.

Although the staff will never tell you what to do, and how to do it, they will tell you what you should do and how you might be able to accomplish your goal. Through their reminders
and curiosity in a resident’s decisions and actions, they can help you become more self-aware of what is needed of you to be successful. Wellmet means more to me than I realize.

- "Nate"


Mark's Perspective

The semester before I came to Wellmet was a difficult one. I was having physical health problems and mental health issues to the point of not being able to pass the classes I was taking. When I found out I'd have to move out of the dormitory and take time away from school, I had a psychological crisis and checked myself into a mental hospital.

A social worker at the hospital helped me find Wellmet. It didn't take me long after moving in to start feeling my health—both physical and psychological—improve. It was clear that Wellmet was a healing environment for me in many ways: the support of the staff, the sense of community, and the milieu time with other residents, to name a few. My weekly goals meetings with my assigned staff member helped me start taking positive steps on the road to recovery. I am taking classes again now and feeling better than I have in a long time.

I have been at Wellmet for a couple years now, and I have seen a lot of people benefit from the program, but it is not for everyone. The people who get the most out of living at Wellmet seem to be the ones who are committed to personal growth and working toward independent living. The people who get the least out of living at Wellmet seem to be the ones who don't like rules and structure, and those who don't like living with other people. The multi-day interview process is helpful in determining whether Wellmet will be a good fit for prospective new residents.

To conclude, I feel that Wellmet is an excellent program for those who want to work toward healing as members of a healing community, and I hope that Wellmet will expand in the future to provide services to even more people who are recovering from mental illness.

- "Mark"